Friday, October 30, 2015

7 Ways to Save Money and Live on One Income

Hey!  I am Sarah at Liza in the Lou. Stasia and I went to college at UGA together and have stayed in touch through blogging.  We both have adorable little girls-- and I would be remiss if I didn't include a picture of my Elizabeth:




As the mom of a now almost 5 month old, I am LOVING being at home with her.  The decision to leave my job was a very hard person decision but not difficult from a financial perspective. My husband is a resident and is by no means making the big bucks (his salary is online in case you're curious).  Why is this you ask?

In the almost 6 years we've been married, we have never lived off of more than one income.  For the first four years of marriage, he was a student and I was our sole income provider.  This past year was the first year in our marriage that we both worked.  We made the decision to continue living like we were living on one salary. 

Consider this: It was just one generation ago that couples and families lived comfortably on one income. And while the cost of living has increased, so too have wages.

When I think back to how we've made one-income living work for us it is NOT because I am a budget-spreadsheet woman who line by line itemizes each expense.  Instead we've used the principals below to stay on track:

1. We keep our housing expenses low. In our 3rd year of marriage when many of our friends started buying 4-5 bedroom houses, we downsized from our rented ranch-style brick home into a 900 square foot, 3RD floor condo we lovingly referred to as the "tree house". Not only was the rent cheaper, but the decision to live on the 3rd floor saved us approximately $3000 over a two year period ($120 a month in energy utilities X 2 years = $2880 ). I think my husband and I would agree that not only was that a smart financial decision, it was a really fun time in our marriage!

2. Every expense has always been up for discussion.  For example, in year #2 of marriage, we needed to free up room in our budget in order to save more.  We looked at our fixed expenses and decided that the $39.00 a month that we spent on internet needed to be eliminated.  For an entire year we exclusively used internet at work, the library or if we needed to work on a project late at night, we went to the Taco Bell down the street for free Wi-Fi (you can laugh at our frugalness, but we saved almost $500 in one year doing that).

3. We really save up for big purchases.  For example, both of our cars have over 170K miles on them (2002 Honda Civic and a 1999 Toyota 4-Runner).  Sure, I would love a newer car, but I also love that I am not making a car payment every month.  Instead, are socking away money into a short term bond fund with the intent of using the money to pay cash for a car when one of our rides finally dies.


4. We pay ourselves first. This commonly used phrase refers to the practice of automatically making a savings contribution or investment with your income before it can reach your wallet. You “pay yourself first” when you contribute a percentage of your income to your retirement plan or savings account each pay period. The transfer to your savings or investment account is done automatically, before you receive the rest of your income for paying your monthly living expenses. When you pay yourself first, you ensure the specified amount of money you want to save really does make it into your savings account or investment, since it happens before you have the opportunity to use the money for something else.  We also use this same concept for tithing to our church. 

5. We try to buy everything used. One of my favorite blogs, the Simple Economist, does a really great job of explaining the Irrational Gap in Price Between New and Used. The point of his post is that products have a dramatic and irrational drop in price as soon as they are purchased. For the savvy individuals, this provides a window of opportunity between the time when an objects’ price has been devalued but the useful life is still strong. My husband and I literally buy ALL of our clothes at Goodwill.  Every piece of furniture in our house is either 2nd hand or was purchased off Craigslist.  We even buy unusual things at places like Goodwill... unopened boxes of diapers, unopened jumbo boxes of Hefty trash bags, Christmas lights, etc all at significantly lower prices than from a Big Box store.

6. We get creative. For example, I recently took my daughter to a class at Gymboree Music and Play.  She had such a great time interacting with the other babies! At the end of the class, I inquired how much it would cost us to join.  I was shocked to learn that 4 classes a month would cost us $65 ( annual cost of $780).  At that point I had three options, 1) pony up the money and take a class  2) save the money and not take a class 3) start my own class!  Guess which option we are going with?  I found a really talented high school senior who is going to college to major in theatre and arts.  This summer she is going to lead a group of my friends and their babies in a music and play class that is very similar to the classes at Gymboree.  Each mom is going to pay $3.00 to cover the high school students "salary". It's a win for her, and a big win for us!

7. Surround yourself with other frugal-minded friends. One of the most helpful things we've done is surround ourselves with thrifty friends.  When your friends are conscience about how they spend their money, you will likely feel less pressure to spend as well. A fun Friday night for us involves grilling hamburgers, playing Settlers of Catan and great conversation (for a grand total of $10).

If you have any questions about how we've reduced our overhead expenses or as I like to call it, our "glamorous frugal lifestyle" (because I never feel like I am having to miss out on stuff because I am too poor)-- feel free to contact me!

Saturday, September 12, 2015

Starting Solid Foods: What to Eat and When

Every couple of months, a good friend will call or e-mail me to ask my opinion on when they should start feeding their baby solid foods and what they should offer.  Because this is a topic I care about, I usually end up writing a very lengthy e-mail response.  I am by no means an expert on this subject and did not major or master in dietetics or   nutrition—so please consult with your pediatrician before accepting my advice.

Before my daughter was born, I read a lot of parenting books and knew the basic 5S’s. I knew that the first few months were going to be challenging, but I really did not know what to expect post-swaddle. I assumed that my child was going to be a Gerber-baby—because I was one—and because I did not know that there was an alternative.

At playdates I started hearing moms talk about a feeding philosophy called “Baby-led weaning” (BLW). The name confused me at first because I associated the buzzword with breastfeeding—but it really references a term popularized by Gill Rapley, a British public-health nurse and mother of three — babies skip spoon-feeding altogether and parents let baby self-feed at 6 months using finger foods like softly cooked vegetables, soft fruits, avocado slices, strips of meat/cheese, or toast strips. Basically, baby eats what the family eats, with the exception of honey and fluid cow's milk (but other dairy like yogurt and cheese is OK as long as it’s tolerated by baby). Allergenic foods are introduced around 6 months as well, as the American Academy of Pediatrics now states that introduction of allergens around the 6 month mark actually decreases allergy risk. Introduce allergenic foods one at a time to watch for reactions. Allergenic foods include wheat/gluten, nuts, dairy, shellfish, non-shell fish, soy, eggs, and peanuts. (Source: http://aapnewsde.aap.org/aapnews-open/201302_o?pg=13#pg13)
My toddler with veggie sushi (no raw seafood included)


I read a lot about BLW and decided it was great for my family because:

1.      I am lazy.  I don’t want to be a short order cook and make one meal for my kids and one for my husband and myself.
2.      I am cheap/poor.  Baby food in pouches and jars is really expensive. (supportive article here)
3.      I think parents have an important role in helping their children create a healthy relationship with food. (One of the many supportive articles here)
4.      One of my parenting goals is to inspire my children to be curious about the world and to become globally aware. Eating foods from other cultures and discussing the country’s customs and beliefs at the dinner table is—according to literature-- the #1 way to raise globally aware kids. (More on this below)

Baby Led Weaning is NOT for everyone. It’s easy for me to share the benefits of BLW, but I would be remiss if I didn’t share that it is a controversial feeding philosophy. I have many dear friends who have also followed this method with great success. However, one friend—a pediatrician—had a terrifying encounter when she had to administer the Heimlich maneuver on her child. There is a lot you can read on the risks (or not) of choking and BLW (Great article here).  We fortunately never had any choking scares—but I also would only allow my baby to eat pureed foods when being supervised by anyone other than my husband or myself (i.e. the babysitter). 

I carefully followed my pediatrician’s instructions when introducing solids and only introduced one new food every three days so that I could carefully watch for an allergic reaction in the form of diarrhea, rash or vomiting. I modified the BLW principals and started with purees for the first two months and then moved to soft solids.

My husband and I decided early on that we were not going to “assume” that our daughter would prefer “kid-friendly” foods like hot dogs over more nutritious and flavorful meals like stir-fry or curry dishes.  Many toddlers start rejecting new foods at around 18-24 months so parents really only have a 1-year window to challenge or push the child’s pallet.

I am a big fan of introducing textures early on. I put Quaker rolled oats oatmeal in the food processor and used it as our very first food (cheaper and less processed than baby cereal). The second food I introduced was quinoa cooked in the microwave at 75% for 30 seconds with breast milk.
Then I introduced one new purée every three days. For example: sweet potatoes + quinoa + BM. After I determined my child was not allergic, I introduced another food ( avocado and carrots were early favorites). Once I went through all of the traditional firsts, then I started making combinations of foods. For example: broccoli+ lemon juice + quinoa + carrot was a favorite. Around 8 months, we started eliminating purées and gave her small, soft bite sized bites of foods (like broccoli). Around 9 months I started giving her modifications of our dinner.

Other fun simple puree recipes:
Sweet potato and cinnamon – Roast whole sweet potatoes until tender, remove skin, and puree with 1 pinch of cinnamon per sweet potato, working up to ¼ tsp. Thin with water or plain yogurt. Other add-ins: ground ginger, nut butters.

Avocado and cumin – Mash 1 avocado with 2 pinches of ground cumin. Thin with water or olive oil. Other add-ins: squeeze of lime, cilantro (baby guacamole!).

Butternut squash and sage – Halve a butternut squash, scoop out seeds, rub with olive oil, and roast skin side up until tender. Puree squash flesh with ½ tsp finely chopped fresh sage. Thin with water or olive oil. Other add-ins: parmesan cheese.

Quick advice:  One time I thought I was being “ambitious” and made a stock pile of freezer pureed baby food.  I made way too much and most of it didn’t get eaten because my daughter wasn't as interested in being fed as she was feeding herself.

Sample “Daily Meal” Plans:
10-12 months
 6:30 a.m. breastmilk (on tap)
8:30 a.m. toast and fruit with breastmilk in sippy cup.
11:00 a.m. chicken pot pie with veggies and fruit with a sippy cup of breastmilk
2:30 p.m. goldfish crackers and sippy of breastmilk
5 p.m. Breastfeed
6:00 spaghetti with meatballs and peas
7 p.m. breastfeed before bed.

Global Babies:
In many countries, babies are not fed bland rice cereals as their first foods rather, they introduced to spices from the start. In India for example, they think nothing of adding a bit of curry spices to baby's foods at a very early age. Thai families often incorporate coconut milk, lemongrass, tamarind and even chili when feeding their babies solid foods. Latino babies are exposed to taste of wonderful herbs and spices such as cumin, cilantro and even chili peppers!

I have a heart for internationals who transplant in the US.    My daughter has been such a fun “American Ambassador” by genuinely loving food from other cultures.  When she was around 11 months old, she impressed my friend Manal from Saudi Arabia with her love for dates and hummus.  When my dear friend Nihal from Turkey’s mother came to the US and made us a special traditional Turkish breakfast, Elizabeth ate two very generous helpings. She’s tried and loved Ethiopian, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Turkish, Italian, German and Indian foods (probably others!).
My toddler eating Korean dish with chopsticks


My daughter at 16 months eating traditional Ethiopian food

On Marketing to your Children:
Companies like Kellogg’s and Kraft spend millions of dollars (maybe even billions) annually marketing food to kids.  If it’s OK for them to do it—why can’t parents do a little branding of their own?  Even though my daughter is a very good eater, she has picky moments.  It’s during these difficult times that I get creative.  Here are a few examples:

  •           I made something for dinner and my daughter decides she doesn’t like it (even though she liked it the last two times I made it).  I then ask if she would like for me to add “magic sprinkles” to the meal (also known as chia seeds) and instantly the meal is transformed into something desirable and edible.
  •           The oatmeal I made for breakfast doesn’t taste good (even though it’s the same recipe I often use and she loves). Instead of forcing her to eat it, I double the recipe, add an egg white, put it in pink polka dot muffin tins and bake at 350 for 10 minutes.  If I offer her the “cupcakes” thirty minutes later she is asking for “more, more”.
  •          I re-brand food items with more fun names.  For example: homemade granola bars=cookies
  •         I bought a spiralizer recently and made homemade macaroni and cheese using zucchini instead of noodles
  •          “Dessert” at our house is often berries
  •           To encourage more milk drinking, my husband makes my daughter “lattes” or lightly warmed milk that he steams.  She feels like such a big girl!
  •          We occasionally invite “Minnie Mouse” (stuffed animal) to eat with us.  Minnie LOVES (insert food toddler wont touch) making it more appealing.
  •           I always serve my toddler food on my real (everyday) china. I treat her like a “big girl” at the table and expect her to have big girl manners.  By treating her like a big girl, there is a sense of pride and privilege. Presentation matters to her—if I just put food on her high chair tray, she would feel like a baby.
  •           I always serve food in courses starting with the vegetable item when she is most hungry.

Books or resources I recommend:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/littlefoodiesofstl/ The best BLW Facebook group moderated by a friend of mine who happens to be a dietician and mother.

http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/129/3/e827.full.html Great resource by the American Academy of Pediatrics for breastfeeding mothers on infant nutrition


http://www.babyledweaning.com/some-tips-to-get-you-started/